Archive for September, 2010

Addy’s getting FOUR molars, at once.

Yes, she’s been SUPER DUPER moody this week. Let’s hope all the teeth get through so Mommy can have her sanity back! On a better note, she’s trying so hard to stand on her own and almost does it. Her right foot is doing better so she can balance now. Therapy will continue for at least 3 more months, but she is making progress =)

We went to the park for some photos earlier, and swinging of course (Addy’s favorite!). I can’t wait to put them on my computer so I can see how they turned out!

After that, we went to Payless for groceries. (No the shoe store!). We were in line to check out when I overheard a Mom telling her little boy (probably about 4) that he couldn’t have a candy bar. Her reason wasn’t because it’s bad for you, because we haven’t had dinner yet, or any other normal reason for a Mommy to tell her kid no. Her reason was this, and I quote “I’m not spending MY money on that junk. You will have to wait until tomorrow when we get our food stamps.” SERIOUSLY?? WTF is wrong with people? I don’t work, and am on a VERY STRICT budget, but my baby gets everything she wants and she doesn’t even know how to tell me she wants something! I reached into my purse and got out $1.50 and gave it to him. I said, “Here. This is MY money, and I want you to have it for YOUR candy bar.” And he said thank you! I don’t get it. Why have kids if you can’t get them everything they want, even if it is a candy bar YOU don’t want to pay for? Parenting is definitely a skill and so many people don’t have it.


Ashley Carter Photography Fall Half Sessions!!

It’s my FAVORITE time of year!! I LOVE Fall. I love leaves, I love the cool air, I love tomato soup & grilled cheese, pumpkins, apple orchards, chili, my Ugg boots, and chicken & noodles. But most of all I love photography! Click on the ‘click here’ link to download my PDF with details about the half-sessions! I hope to see you there!! ClickHereForBrochure!!


Choices, history, and the future

I thought this was a humble title for tonight’s blog. Sorry for the extreme length, but I really needed to say all these things.

First, choices. Why did I save the 2 toughest courses, EVER, to take in 1 semester? I hate it when people procrastinate. But, I’ve became a pro at it throughout college! On a lighter note of choices, I just saw a geek win a million bucks on 1 vs 100. That was pretty awesome!
Back to the downside of choices… THINK BEFORE YOU ACT people. One little choice can effect the rest of your life, and the lives of thousands of others. Most of you know what I’m talking about. I’ve lost a dear friend, who was more than a friend to me for MANY years, 5 months ago. It’s hard to believe it’s been that long, but my heart has been broken since. All because of a reckless choice and a choice of place to hang out. A great person, seriously, lost to a young person’s recklessness. Will justice ever be served? I hope so, but we all know how the criminal system works.

Ok, think to yourself: Who is that ONE person you can call when you are happy, sad, disappointed, or just plain pissed off? The one who will ALWAYS answer no matter WHERE they are. They would never dream of ‘ignoring’ your call. Got it??

My ONE person was Adam. No matter what happened, or how it happened he listened and gave me his honest ‘get your head out of your ass’ opinion. Whatever words he had to offer would always inspire me to make the right choice. So now, I’m kind of back into my ‘old life’ from before I met him. We met in August 1999 for the first time. Yes, 11 years ago. We started dating the next year in 2000. After that we were best friends for life. Even through all the hard times, we were each other’s ‘rock’. Sounds odd, but is very true. He’d drop everything just to help me out. I’d do the same for him.

That was a bit of history, and I have a bit more.

Today Addy & I went on a little ‘roadtrip’. We visited Adam’s Mom & Sister and saw the great tribute to him. A lake & cabin. He always wanted his own lake, he loved to fish.

After that, we visited my cousin and his family, my brother, and my Grandma. Also very nice. On the way home, I decided to stop by the cemetery to ‘see’ my Grandpa. Death has been a VERY hard subject for me over the past 2 years. When Grandpa died 2 years ago in November, Adam was the one who held my pieces together. Even though we weren’t in a relationship anymore he sat beside me, held my hand, and handed me Kleenex when I needed them. A genuinely nice person.

For those of you who don’t know, my Grandpa is my hero. He taught me everything I know when I was very young. He read books to me, watched me do puppet shows in the living room, helped me grow a 400 pound pumpkin, set up my very first business (a veggie stand out front), he walked me down the aisle when Adam & I married, and he held my hand when things started to crumble. My Grandpa was also one of the greatest men I have EVER met. EVER. He used to drive 30 minutes to pick me up from my house after school, he made me laugh, and brought a great deal of happiness to my life.

In 1990 when my grandpa had brain surgery I was right there beside him. He spent his birthday in the hospital recovering and I brought him an electric screwdriver as a gift. In 1992 when he had open heart surgery, I was right there too. I had a special stuffed animal, and he went to surgery too. His name was DJ. He also had his tonsils taken out when I did, went through open heart surgery with my grandma, and later he was buried with my Grandpa. All I have besides memories is an old rocking chair my Grandpa gave me. I won’t let anyone sit in it. When I need somewhere to collect my thoughts that is where I go. I was so sad when Grandpa passed away and my baby would never get to meet him, or know his silly math problems. My favorite was the one he always told: If you have $100 and want to buy 100 head of livestock what will you buy? I can never remember the prices of the cow, so I can’t solve the problem. I had it figured out by age 5, and many adults never figured it out. Grandpa wasn’t a genius, but he was also an amazing man. I realized today how much I miss him. As an adult we even played the crazy 8 card game together. They say things will get easier after a loss of someone you love. I’m not buying it. My life has been nothing but tough since November 2008. I’ve lost 2 people in my life that were most important to me. Maybe someday my heart will heal, only time will tell.
The future= unknown.

Just another day

Okay, so I’m a bit peeved off I got less than an A on my financial management test. Mostly because it’s online and we’ve yet to receive any valuable input from our instructor. Remember the one I said didn’t speak very clear English? Yep, the same one. Every semester there’s that one instructor who doesn’t offer input and this semester it’s twice as hard because English isn’t her primary language. That would be okay if we didn’t have a HUGE language barrier when communicating with her.

I STILL love staying at home with Addy. I’m actually busier now than I was when I worked, and have been able to almost maintain the same income as before as well. (Minus lunch costs, daycare, and gas!). That means there haven’t been many sacrifices around here yet… the main one: no more salon hair care products. Yes, I’ve reverted to Tresemme and it’s not all that bad. Not my first choice, but I’ll live.

Sometimes I feel like our family is a million miles away… Like halfway across the world. When I have big exams to do, or other homework it would be nice to have someone close to watch Addy even if for only an hour. No one ever offers to help which is fine. But when I’m with her 24/7 sometimes a break is in order. Let’s recap the times Addy has spent the night away from me in 16 months: Ummm twice. Yep. 2 times. Once because I didn’t have anyone to watch her the next morning but my Mom, and the other time when Mom asked for her. I don’t want her to spend the night away from me but a while to myself on a weekend would be super nice. Even if I went to Panera to have dinner by myself!

Life goes on, and it’s almost time for me to make dinner.

The end is in sight…

First of all, I’m writing this while watching an eBay auction, Grey’s Anatomy, and eating my chili. Grey’s is grossing me out right now, especially over dinner. For those of you who don’t know I am EXTREMELY squeamish! Things that are bloody gross me out. I BARELY made it through pregnancy because blood and guts were involved. ICKKKK.

Ok, on to the real reason I am writing this blog. I graduate from college in just over 2 months. Yep, that’s it. Just like that I am done! I received an exclusive invitation to the honor society (the one for business is Delta Mu Delta) today. I’m contemplating whether or not to join. After all I’m not a traditional college student and often times have other obligations with my princess Addy. I’m not sure what to do really.. although I would really like to get extra cords to wear at this graduation too. Decisions decisions.

On another note, have I mentioned lately that I HATE my financial management class? It totally sucks. It’s hard, and not well explained at all by my professor who doesn’t speak clear English unfortunately. I tuned in for a 2 hour webcast Sunday. I waited over 90 mins to get my answer which wasn’t even really an answer. Ugh. I hope I can get myself up to speed!

Grey’s is back from commercial and not as gross, which means I have to go!

Just for Annie..

Ok, here is what I have since all communication has been cut off (because FB is being an @s$ today). Check them out. Let me know this is what you want, and that they all look good =)
Thanks again!!!

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Dear Tuesday…

So, if you haven’t done so already check out my feature on Nana’s Deals & More FB page. I got 33 items the other day for under $10! All were originally over $1 each too =)

Tonight Addy & I had dinner with Mom at Qdoba (one of my FAV places!) Delicious!! Cheese nachos & tortilla soup.

Also, tonight I’m in the mood to share a few old pics of Addy.. I just want everyone to see how’s she’s grown into the pretty little girl she is. Beware, there is one from shortly after her birth (don’t look if you’re squeamish but it’s not THAT bad, promise).

As I’ve said before this little girl is my whole entire world. I wouldn’t have it any other way and I’m so glad I get to be at home with her and teach her all kinds of new things. Words can’t even explain how much I love her and I don’t know what I would without her.

Besides that, I’m a little bit at a loss for words today, mostly because I’m missing my best friend a lot the past few days, who was Always the first person to congratulate me on my accomplishments. Thankfully some of the family helps with the pain I’m feeling after his loss. If nothing else, I just want justice. Let me clarify, I know him leaving us was an accident and no, I’m not pointing the finger at someone, but for every action there is a consequence. Please keep the family in your thoughts and hope for justice to be served. Once a Carter always a Carter and we stick together =)

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Laundry Softener Recipe!!

As promised… There are 2 ways!


Recipe #1:

2 Cups White Vinegar
2 Cups Baking Soda
4 Cups Water

Combine slowly and carefully over sink. The baking soda and vinegar will fizz. Pour into plastic bottle, cover, and shake. *Hint – Reuse your “Downy” bottle.

Use 1/4 cup in the final rinse or in a “Downy Ball”.

Recipe #2:

2-3 Cups Water
1 Cup Liquid Fabric Softener
Large Sponge

Combine water and liquid softener. Cut sponge in 1/2 and keep in liquid. When drying clothes, remove sponge, squeeze out excess liquid and place in dryer with clothes. When dry, just place sponge back in liquid to be used for next load.

A new recipe…

Thought I would share this valuable tip with all the other Mommies out there!! I use a cheese grater on the fine side for the bar of soap PS, I don’t have a food processor although I wish I did. Perhaps that’s an investment I need to make soon!


Homemade Laundry Soap

1 cup Borax
1 cup Arm and Hammer Washing SODA (NOT BAKING SODA)
1 bar of Ivory soap (you can really use whatever brand you prefer, I like Ivory for our skin allergies)
Chop up the bar of soap into cubes, put cubes into a food processor (a blender won’t work, believe me I have tried). Then you add the cup of Borax and the cup of Washing Soda and let the food processor mix it all into a fine powder. Hint, cover food processor with a damp towel as the fine powder may escape and you probably don’t want to breath this in.
Results This makes approx. 2.5 to 3 cups of detergent.

Here is the kicker! You only use 1 Tablespoon Per load! This is why it lasts so long. This detergent WILL clean the laundry, but will not make a lot of bubbles. If you have researched commercial detergents you will see they put additives to make bubbles because as consumers, we all believe that Bubbles are what cleans the laundry! In fact, the opposite is true. The bubbles leave a residue on laundry and this residue can build up making clothes get dirtier/smellier more quickly.

For diapers, or heavily dirty laundry, use 2 tablespoons.

When you make the laundry detergent, make about 10 batches and store them in a Large pretzel container from Sam’s Club (reuse and recycle). If you are interested in the cost breakdown, here goes.
Normal detergent (economy box for families at Target) is usually about $15-$20 and it may last 1-2 months.
The Box of Borax is super cheap – $ 3- $4. The ARM and Hammer Washing Soda – about $2, the bar of soap (can be anywhere, but also can be purchased at the dollar store in packs of 4-6) for very cheap… lets say $1-2. So for about $7 and tax you have the makings for at least 6 loads (more if you buy more bar soap).
The Borax has 9.5 cups in the box and the Washing Soda has 6.5 cups in a box. So, the breakdown of cost and savings is amazing. It is about $0.03/load.

Happy Birthday (to me)

At least I didn’t have to go to a job today. It was a bittersweet day, and I enjoyed as much time as I could with Miss Addy. Over the past few months I have learned it’s the things we often take for granted that mean the most. With that being said, I wanted to share some images I spent time capturing today of my little princess. Take a look at the slideshow below.

I love this little girl, and after all she is the best birthday present anyone could ever ask for. Since the tragedy a few months ago, I haven’t been the same. Nor have I viewed the value on life the same. I drive the speed limit or under, am extra cautious and never take my hand or eyes off Miss Addy. Being a Mommy to such a beautiful, amazing little girl is most my coveted ability.

As parents, we never think our babies will be taken from us. But in a sudden moment life can change. A reckless choice can turn the lives of hundreds of people UPSIDE DOWN. We all still have broken hearts, that will likely never heal, but deep down we all believe justice will be served in one way or another.

If you take nothing away from my blogs, ever, make it this: Life is far too short to take for granted your loved ones. Cherish your babies like there will be no tomorrow because it just may be their last day here in the real world. Today, more than ever, I missed your late night call. I missed your encouraging words, and I missed the pranks you’ve played on me. We all love and miss you Adam. ❤

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